Author: Shawn
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Personal Boundaries
Boundaries Worksheet Setting Healthy Boundaries: A Practical Overview Many people struggle with setting and maintaining boundaries—especially those who prioritize others’ needs over their own, feel guilty saying no, or fear conflict. Boundaries aren’t about pushing people away; they’re about protecting your time, energy, and well-being so you can have healthier, more respectful relationships. The worksheet…
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Mislabeling Thinking for Feeling: Couple’s Edition
Communication Strategies: Clarifying Feelings vs. Thoughts in Conversations Feelings are not thoughts. Feelings are subjective experiences of our bodily sensations and interpretations of our emotions (e.g., sad, upset, nervous) and physiology (e.g., hunger, thirst, pain). Thoughts, evaluations, perceptions, and assumptions are cognitive interpretations (e.g., “not doing the right thing”) of a situation. When referencing the…
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Self-Regulation Protocol
Self-Regulation Processing Method Worksheet “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” Viktor Frankl This method helps you move from reactivity to intentional action by guiding you through awareness, acknowledgment, acceptance, understanding, and deliberate choice. It…
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“WH” Question Words
Most of our language is directional. Meaning, that when we communicate, we direct someone’s attention. When a question is asked, our brains tend to go on a search to find an answer. If it is a general, non-exact, or non-literal question, then our brain does a “transderivational search”. This is when someone’s mind is looking…
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Demandingness Words
Words of demandingness are “should” statements. When we tell ourselves, and others, or are told by others that we “have to… need to… should… must” do something. There is an expectation or demand from ourselves, society, religion, community, and family that we do things a specific/certain way. We are being told what to do in…
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Values Clarification
Values Worksheet “Your values are your unconscious mind’s blueprint for how to live your life when you’re on automatic pilot.” John Overdurf Values are things that are important to you in different contexts. They are based on your beliefs and experiences, and act as cognitive filters for making decisions. They are the basis of motivation…
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Socratic Method
The Socratic Method Steps Worksheet The Socratic Method is used to understand what someone believes and why they believe it by identifying the topic of discussion (and their beliefs) and then breaking it down into small parts through clarification and open questions to understand them and ensure you are both on the same page.
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Reaction vs Response
Reaction vs response: The difference between a reaction and a response is a space. There is a pause; a moment of conscious awareness. “Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
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Mindfulness: The Basics
Mindfulness Overview Worksheet Mindfulness is shifting one’s awareness to the present moment experience. It involves recognizing and acknowledging the reality of a situation – what is. Shawn outlines the mindfulness process in four steps. A few mindfulness techniques:
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The 3 C’s: Courage, Competence, Confidence
“We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time.“ Brené Brown Courage is the willingness to take bold action despite feelings of fear or uncertainty. It involves stepping outside of one’s comfort zone, taking risks, and confronting obstacles head-on. You may feel afraid, but you…